Comparing Notes

Well, I’ve been going through my autistic Facebook groups, and I came across a Neurodiversity test. 

Here is the link:  

Here is my result: 


It was introduced as: “You are likely neurodiverse.” (Tell me something I don’t know.) Much of the group activities consist of comparing notes as to our experiences. We can generally figure out autism for ourselves this way. Being diagnosed younger than most of my female autistics, I am all too happy to help. These notes are very helpful for many of us. 

The note comparing can be helpful for relating to those not of our ilk, as well. Trouble is, much of our information is largely ignored by neurotypicals, especially neurotypicals who are trying to make us into neurotypicals. Trouble with those people is, all they’ll get is fakery and autistic bitterness. We need this information to get out into the parents of autistic children.  The trouble is this: can they accept that autistics themselves can tell you of an experience from the inside? Or does that previous question blow their minds?  


Lumped in With a Mass Murderer

About the Parkland, Florida shooter being autistic: There are now people or gangs of people who will come up to me and ask me what it’s like to be a potential mass murderer, all because I am autistic. It has happened before, and due to human nature to condemn needlessly, it will happen again. How does that feel, they ask? It feels awful. I feel blamed for something I never intend to do. My family grew up hating guns. Sure, they won’t stop a person from defending themselves with a handgun, they see that. But to violate and invalidate my rights while people are potentially out to get me is wrong.  

I feel that because the Florida shooter was autistic, and I am autistic too, people are now out to get me. That is textbook paranoia. I am now feeling paranoid. 

Are you happy now?  

A Multi-Gun Standoff

There was a massive school shooting in Florida. Everybody is up in arms. I can hear the desperation in everybody’s voices.



I’m still processing this information, processing a real response. It seems that now everybody either has a gun or has a gun pointed at their heads in America. American living now looks like this:

Scratcher-Mexican-Stand-Off.jpgYes, this is what we call a “Mexican Standoff.” I call it a multi-gun standoff.

But the question I have for everybody carrying on the gun debate:

-Is a multi-gun standoff really the best you can do, NRA people?

My Fuzzy Valentine

OK, let’s get silly for a minute. It has come to my attention that I don’t have a someone to love and love me this Valentine’s Day. Or tdo I? Let’s see the requirements for me:

1. A male (This is MY requirements list.)

2. A heart full of love

3. A handsome look

4. Good character

5. Good Natured

Let’s see….


Close enough. He IS cute.


Why “Han Shot First!” Is a Moot Point

I have an inner geek, and I’ve decided to let her out. Yes, my inner geek is a woman. Is that so hard to believe? I like Star Wars AND Star Trek. So sue me. Today, I would like to talk about a small, short scene in Star Wars.  

It’s a small matter, but it’s one that comes up time and time again. “Han shot first!” The scene has been altered at least four times since its initial showing. The question I have is, why does it matter? Greedo said he would kill him.  

For those who don’t know, the scene in question is in “Star Wars: A New Hope,” very early on, in the Mos Eisley Cantina. Here is the exchange: Greedo informs Han of a bounty a then-unknown Jabba the Hutt had put on his head. Han says, “Over my dead body.” Greedo says, “That’s the idea.” From that point on, anything Han Solo does is in self-defense. 

Why? Simple. Greedo stated his intent to kill Han. It’s that simple. If Greedo shot first (in some adaptations), Han acted in self-defense. If Han shot first, he acted in self-defense. Han acted in self-defense no matter how the scene went down. Greedo was going to kill Han anyway, so does Han lose the right to defend himself in shooting first?  

Sometimes, a controversy is a moot point. We do not need to argue about any more than is necessary for health and safety. After all, we’ve got politics to make us hate each other more than enough.  

Cartoon Women

Why do people need to act and believe their cartoons?  Cartoons are what happens when people believe their stereotypes. 

Here’s the problem with stereotypes: most people believe them, at least secretly.  

Here is an example: A later episode of What Not to Wear featured a woman who dressed so feminine, she acted like a cartoon. Now this is an extreme example, but it is very close to stereotypes regarding women. A giant beehive, tons of bubblegum makeup, strands of pearls, and super-high heels.  

Another example? Willie, a character in Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom. A most annoying and ingratiating character, yes, but she seems little more than a bundle of stereotypes. I’m not laying the blame at Capshaw’s feet, though. She is among a class of people who can portray anyone. The character was written stereotypically, the damsel in distress. Well, the damsel in distress was largely out of fashion by the 1980s, thanks to the introduction of Princess Leia and other more participatory lead women. Most people dislike the character of Willie, and she is counted among the most annoying characters ever put to film. 

My point about bringing up the damsel in distress, and the character of What Not to Wear, are that these women are literally cartoons of femininity. The problem with cartoons is, most people believe them. They are detrimental to things like peace, love and understanding. I brought up feminine stereotypes because they are ones I am closest to, but here’s a good example of detriment: How many persons of color have been followed in a store because the people who work there think the person of color is an automatic thief? How about all the women who have been denied their autism diagnosis simply because they are women? There’s the “aggressive, savage” black person, the “hysterical” Hispanic, and the “math genius-ninja” Asian. Sure, there are a few people who fit the stereotype, but most of them do not. Let me break it down: Who is going to listen to someone “hysterical”? Who is going to stock up on guns to protect themselves from the “aggressive savage”? Most people are fighting the cartoon version of their kind daily.  

Why can’t people be real?