Stigmatizing Help: WHY?????

Mariah Carey spoke of first being diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in 2001. Since she only recently came out of the mental illness closet, I figured she suffered greatly due to the stigma and the secret she held. And it was also true; she admitted to this suffering. Sadly, this is not the only case of suffering due to stigma I can personally account for.
I know a person who came out of the mental illness closet almost immediately after being diagnosed. Unfortunately, she lost a lot of friends along the way. Also, she was blamed for extreme measures being taken to control her by one of those former friends. She suffered through adjustments through medications for a year, and she did it alone.
So, who did she turn to when she needed help for tough financial decisions when undergoing these changes? NOBODY. She and I have large amounts of financial debt and cannot even declare bankruptcy to clear those debts. We are hounded by mail. We are hounded by phone. We are hounded by bad credit scores. And we have no one to turn to in our hour of need. Where is everybody? Everybody we know turned away when we came out of the mental illness closet.
Why do we hate getting help? Why do we discriminate against those with mental illness? Stigmatizing mental illness is only society shooting itself in the foot. Less people seek help, which leads to more hiding, which leads to dramatic confrontations of the jackass-on-a-fast-food-roof kind. Don’t you see? Making help a thing of weakness and vulnerability only makes us weak and vulnerable against the coming drama. We need to stop stigmatizing getting help for your problems. It would have saved years of pain and suffering in Carey’s case.

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cambriaj1977

Autistic woman in her 40s, bringing attention to issues that affect her and her kind.

2 thoughts on “Stigmatizing Help: WHY?????”

  1. This was my experience too. It’s taken me years to stabilize, find housing that fits my needs and budget, (and would consider the financial abuse I went through by a former caregiver – and that took some time. ) the reaction from others, astounding and while I was at my most ill. Yeah, I know this routine very well. 2010 started that journey. 2014 I learned how to share my story and have done so now to more than I can count and over 900 law enforcement, and dunno how many first responders now. I have been the person on the bus bench, drooling, haphazard and very ill. and spit on and called a crazy bitch for existing on the bench. People are pretty messed up. This friend/family system fade out is very much a part of the pattern for many, many after dx.

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