Fat Shaming Only Makes Me Fatter

I know it’s been a while since I said something. But I needed to say something about this:  Fat Shaming does NOT need to make a comeback. James Corden is right. 

I feel like I’m on the Shame Walk of Cersei Lannister.

Let me tell you my personal experience with fat shaming.  

From childhood, I was fat shamed. My mother did it, my siblings did it, even my father did it. I have been on a diet since I was eight.  

Everybody in my life has fat shamed me. My friends commented on my weight every day. Society has, for generations, pushed a rail-thin “heroin chic” (they still do) and hundreds of weight loss products.  

Most of these people say I should stop eating. They shamed me, every meal I ate. 

Unfortunately, to cope with the shame, I ate more.  

The result? 

I am 4’ 11”. I weigh 265 pounds. I have type 2 diabetes. I am 42 years old. I have no husband. I have no children.  

Do you think that a stressor for people who have no coping skills besides eating is a good idea? 

By the way, I am not saying all fat people use eating as a coping skill. I am saying that I did.  

What I am saying is, fat shaming never worked for me.  

I know I am too fat to live in peace. I know I am supposed to live in shame. 

I live in this body.  

I have mirrors. 

I know what I look like. 

And I’m stuck eating to cope with this pain and hate.

Your so-called concern looks like hate, walks like hate, and talks like hate, so therefore it is hate. 

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it is a duck.  

As for the screams of “IT GLAMORIZES UNHEALTHINESS!!!!” Let me say this: I know. I hear it all the time.  

But must I sacrifice my mental health for my physical health?  

Quickshot – Autism, Racism and Sexism

Autism does NOT explain racism and sexism.  

Autism occurs in all races and sexes. Period. It may even occur in your family. Don’t be fooled. Just because someone is autistic, does not mean they are racist or sexist. Likewise, with racism and sexism.  

Have I showed any racism or sexism on my blog? Please, tell me if I have. I never intend to, though I may have unintentionally.